BOYFRIEND'S CELL PHONE FANTASY COULD BECOME LEGAL NIGHTMARE
Locker Room Photos Audio
DEAR ABBY:
My boyfriend is pressuring me to take his camera cell phone with me into the girls' locker room and take pictures of the other girls with little or nothing on. He says it has always been a "fantasy" of his, and that if I really love him I'll help him fulfill his fantasy.
He promises to keep the pictures secret and says that what
the other girls don't know won't hurt them. He offered to do the same
for me and take pictures in the boys' locker room, but I'm not
interested. I know it would be wrong to do it, and I wouldn't want
someone secretly taking pictures of me.
He hinted that if I refuse
he will look for another girl who will. I'm scared of losing him
because I'm not much to look at, and he's the only boy who has ever
shown any interest in me. I know you're not going to tell me to go ahead
and do this, so I'm not sure why I'm writing, but I would appreciate
any advice you can give me.
-- DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM IN THE U.S.A.
DEAR ABBY: I would like to share some important information with "Don't Want to Lose Him in the U.S.A." She's the young lady who is being pressured by her boyfriend to take photos of her classmates in the girls' locker room.
The students at the high school where I teach recently attended a program on Internet and online safety. One of the things that really surprised them was learning cell phone calls don't just go from one phone to another. All text messages and calls are transmitted through cell phone towers, which route the calls or texts to the company's server.
All sent messages and photos are stored on the provider's server. This means pictures deleted from the phone are never really deleted -- and text messages and photos never go away. They still exist in the virtual world.
Should those pictures become the center of a court case, the information is subject to "discovery." With the right equipment, law enforcement can retrieve deleted photos from anyone's cell phone.
"Don't Want to Lose Him" needs to clearly understand she might be prosecuted for producing, distributing and possessing child pornography.
-- A HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER IN CHURCHVILLE, VA.
DEAR DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM: I'm glad you wrote. If you do what this boy is pushing you to do, you could be thrown out of school. He will not be able to resist the urge to show the pictures to his friends - and possibly put them on the Internet.
It would be a huge invasion of privacy and a breach of trust, and regardless of what he says, it will not bring you closer together.
If he truly cared about you, he would never ask you to do something that could get you into serious trouble. You could be accused of creating and distributing pornographic material, and there could be legal liability. The penalty you would pay isn't worth the "interest" he's showing in you. Run!
DEAR ABBY: Refusing to take the photos, but keeping it quiet, is not enough.
I think "Don't Want to Lose Him" should make copies of your column and paste them on every locker to warn all the girls they are at risk -- even when they think they have privacy.
She should also tell the principal, who may be able to provide extra protection. -- SHEILA IN GIG HARBOR, WASH.
DEAR ABBY: I would like to share some important information with "Don't Want to Lose Him in the U.S.A." She's the young lady who is being pressured by her boyfriend to take photos of her classmates in the girls' locker room.
The students at the high school where I teach recently attended a program on Internet and online safety. One of the things that really surprised them was learning cell phone calls don't just go from one phone to another. All text messages and calls are transmitted through cell phone towers, which route the calls or texts to the company's server.
All sent messages and photos are stored on the provider's server. This means pictures deleted from the phone are never really deleted -- and text messages and photos never go away. They still exist in the virtual world.
Should those pictures become the center of a court case, the information is subject to "discovery." With the right equipment, law enforcement can retrieve deleted photos from anyone's cell phone.
"Don't Want to Lose Him" needs to clearly understand she might be prosecuted for producing, distributing and possessing child pornography.
-- A HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER IN CHURCHVILLE, VA.
DEAR DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM: I'm glad you wrote. If you do what this boy is pushing you to do, you could be thrown out of school. He will not be able to resist the urge to show the pictures to his friends - and possibly put them on the Internet.
It would be a huge invasion of privacy and a breach of trust, and regardless of what he says, it will not bring you closer together.
If he truly cared about you, he would never ask you to do something that could get you into serious trouble. You could be accused of creating and distributing pornographic material, and there could be legal liability. The penalty you would pay isn't worth the "interest" he's showing in you. Run!
DEAR ABBY: Refusing to take the photos, but keeping it quiet, is not enough.
I think "Don't Want to Lose Him" should make copies of your column and paste them on every locker to warn all the girls they are at risk -- even when they think they have privacy.
She should also tell the principal, who may be able to provide extra protection. -- SHEILA IN GIG HARBOR, WASH.
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- You are a friend of "DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM IN THE U.S.A." What would you do if you saw her taking photos in the Girls Locker Room? Maybe she took a photo of you. What would you say to her? Would you confront her? Would you tell a teacher or other adult? Would you tell the other girls? What do you think will happen? Be specific and explain why.
- You are the friend of "DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM IN THE U.S.A.'s BOYFRIEND" He tells you what he asked his girlfriend to do. Maybe your girlfriend or sister might be in the locker room. What would you do next? What do you say to him? Do you go and talk to his girlfriend? Would you tell a teacher or other adult? Would you tell the other girls? What do you think will happen? Be specific and explain why.
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